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I just returned home from the National FMSF Conference held in Illinois. As most of you know, I recently obtained custody of my nephews, Dalton 11, Colton 19 months, and niece, Tara, 8. Colton attended the conference with me. The others stayed with my daughter Jennifer, now a 22-year-old woman.

My head has been spinning since I checked out of the hotel. I would like to take each one of your accusing adult children who are keeping your grandchildren from you and ring their necks. My precious baby would frolic throughout the Double Tree without a care in the world. Pamela Freyd bought him a ball and played with him in the lobby. Her face glowed as she watched him look up at her with his beautiful eyes and talk as if he were talking to an old friend. He put his arms out to Peter so trusting, wanting to be held. Ray and Shirley

Souza held this precious child while we took photos. Emily Orne "just had to get him that monkey in the gift shop." Liz LaPlant helped get him to sleep with that "special touch." Carol Perkins, the wife of the big bad Bruce Perkins, sat beside him in the backseat while he played with his trucks. Beth Loftus enjoyed the continual clapping he did as she finished her speech and the clapping he did each time he saw her from then on. Mary Shanley rocked him with the love and kindness that she has always possessed. Many of you stopped to play ball in the outer area during breaks. All of you enjoyed watching him at the dinner on Saturday in his little suit and tie. He enjoyed himself so much. When you laughed, he laughed -- when you clapped, he too clapped. He felt 

so safe within this group of "accused child molesters," he went from one to the other giving kisses and hugs and smiling so much it looked as if a coat hanger was in his mouth. He had the time of his life.

For a decade, many of you have been in my life. You have been so loving and giving and I cherish the relationships I have had in you for so long. Now, just as consistently as you have loved me ? you share that love with my baby. Then I think of how accepted and loved I feel, how safe my child feels (just as Jennifer always did), and how much time you have missed with your children, and their children and in some cases THEIR children. Recovered Memory Therapy will go down in history as destroying so many family units and causing so much pain within the families affected. This is something the therapists should hang their heads in shame over. Unfortunately, most of them have no shame. As I have shared my life with you, and shared my kids with you, I can feel the pain you have been left with by not having your family intact. I wish I could constantly be there for all of you. I wish you could play ball and spend the day at the zoo or park with my kids. I have stayed in many of your homes while traveling and was always welcomed with open arms. You have so much life and experience to give to the children of today. There is an immeasurable amount of wisdom within the group.

I love you all -- I respect you all and I am so very sorry you have been hurt so badly. I have spent ten years trying to undo the damage. In this, the year 2002, it is hard for me to fathom how in the world those still involved can continue the charade. Is pride keeping them from coming home? How in the world will they look themselves in the face when their children find out this hatred for their family has stemmed not from healing, but from harming? How will the children ever forgive them for cheating them out of the time their grandparents would have so lovingly given them? For the doctors, who should have first done no harm, how can the harm ever be undone? Lord help them all when they stand before our Maker ? who by the way KNOWS the truth.

God bless you all for being a part of my life. God bless you for being so kind to me and my kids. God bless you for the pain you have had from this thing. I wish I could get each and every one of your daughters/sons, etc. and shake them until I convinced them they have taken something so precious when life is so short and chucked it out like the trash. If they are so self-consumed with their victim-hood, then at minimum, they should allow the grandchildren to have an untainted relationship with their grandparents. God bless you all for loving me. Thank you for your acceptance. I told many of you over the years, if your daughters/sons do not want you, I'll take you - just as you are. That goes for my kids as well. Colton is still smiling from the wonderful weekend he experienced with his newfound friends. It will be recorded in his memory book with photos. (I have attended every single national level conference and of course, have lots of photos) And one day, when he is a young man, I pray he will study this issue and know I played a part in the memory wars. I hope he is as proud of me as Jennifer is. I hope he loves me the way she does and the way Dalton and Tara do. I hope he respects me for who I am. With that, he will know that for the past decade, you all have been an intricate part of my life.

Thank you all. God bless you all. Thank you for sharing your pain and tears, but most of all your love and laughter throughout the last ten years of my life. I am a better person having known each of you.

Laura Pasley, Dallas, Texas

PS: If you want to send this letter to your accusing daughter/son and they would like to debate this issue with me ? tell them to meet me online. lepasley@airmail.net I look forward to the opportunity.